How do I get rid of loneliness if
I decide to be alone?
At first, you should know that isolation is not always
good, unless you are open to yourself and aware that being alone is not
necessarily negative, but maybe for compelling reasons that will benefit you in
your life.
Isolation can have a calming effect for ourselves,
prepare to stake us to deal better with others, and help us organize our
feelings.
There may be some mental, emotional and social
benefits of choosing to spend time doing things on your own, but the main way
of benefit is in your own choice.
Why is it so hard to spend time
alone?
Robert Coplan, a developmental psychologist, and
professor of psychology at Carleton University said, "Historically,
isolation has had a very bad reputation" because it was sometimes used as
a form of punishment, the New York Times reported.
The reason for the problem was that we were not
instilling the fact that isolation could be optional and should not be
permanent.
The existence of so much research that shows that
humans are social beings that benefit from interacting with others has led many
people to try to deny the importance of spending time alone. It became
difficult for them to imagine a person's ability to benefit from both.
Don't make your isolation because
of someone.
Some people make their isolation experience all about
other people, as research reveals that people usually feel depressed about
enjoying activities on their own, especially those who think others are
watching them.
Overestimating how much people are focused on us, and
worrying about being subjected to judgment on us, our feelings that can
dissuade us from doing things that bring us joy.
Your fear can stir up feeling like being alone with
your thoughts, giving yourself space and open time to roam your mind without
social barriers.
Why is it good to be alone?
Enjoying the benefits of spending time alone is not
about being introverted or open, as people who appreciate the isolation and
tend to ignore their desires to please others find themselves more enjoyable.
The freedom not to have to follow in others' footwork,
without "pressure to do something, talk to someone or commit to planning
with others", is to treat and disassemble stress even in social people.
Spending time with your thoughts without social
gestures can be refreshing, build son-in-law, and make it easier for you to
maintain borders.
Also, this can enhance
your productivity, engagement with others, and creativity.
How do we do that?
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By distorting the golden rule:
Treat yourself as you like to treat others. Don't be eccentric and be open to
exploring new interests.
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Leave a free space in your life
and devote some time to it, even if it's just spending 30 minutes a week
reading in a café.
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Take short steps if you have just
started.
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Time spent alone is a great
opportunity to explore new interests.
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If the idea of spending time
alone is particularly stressful and touting, it may be an important sign that
you need medical help.
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If you find it difficult to
listen to thoughts that are going on in your mind, recording diaries can be a
great way to overcome and evaluate those feelings.
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Try not to spend time on your
phone, as it is a major distraction.
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